Societal changes

I have eluded in previous blogs about how changes in society have affected all and also touched on boundary setting. As a parent of two I have a responsibility to my sons to raise them to be responsible young adults. This can be a very difficult task today. I work full time and so does my husband. When I am not working I am attending to the other needs of the household such as shopping, cleaning and laundry. My husband is an evolved spouse so he contributes to these extra duties as needed. We have very little time, actually no time for us. We try hard to avoid "keeping up with Joneses". I know we could live a lot simpler. I have difficult time letting go of the computer and internet because it is my outlet. I have no problem living in a cheaper house, driving a used car or sitting on used furniture.When I shop not everything in my cart is name brand. We certainly do not live in Martha Stewarts house. I would much rather stay home and write for a living or do research of some type. Unfortunately my house payment, utilities, groceries and necessities of living do not allow this to be a practical practice. Though I have honed my boundary setting skills a lot lately.

Boundary setting is a necessary survial skill that we must have. We need to ask yourself when is enough an enough? Our children learn by our modeling. Today's kids are out of control living in chaos because we are living out of control in chaos. We expect overtime at work is our only way to make it to the next credit card bill. Our house's costs are misaligned with its size and functionality. The cars cost as much as much as a mobile home. Groceries are outrageous in prices because the local farmers can no longer compete with the corporate profit. Wages are not appropriate for skill level and responsibility. Jobs are being outsourced to hundreds of country's that live much simpler therefore live on less. Do I fall into this chaos? On a daily basis. Until we move into a more self efficient area we are forced to fall victim to the spinning web of society. I do drive a used car. We only have 1 vehicle not 2 like most households. I say no to most overtime because it is my time. I try to buy as much local produce and goods as economical possible. I continually evaluate my job and look for other ways to enhance my natural talents that can help support us. I make no excuses for my beliefs and no apologies for my opinions because these are my rights. I have reached enough and am working on how can I move us to the next level safely. It may take a little more education on my part and risk on someone else's part but I am willing to step out of the web and set my boundaries so my sons so not have to rely on other peoples idea of "right".