True Devotion

It is one thing to have a mother, father, sibling or any other relative to tell you they love and believe in you but in my opinion to have a friend or spouse tell you and you feel it. I think you expect your family to be there for you and love you and maybe in someways you expect your friends and spouse to. The saying is "you can not choose your family but you can choose your friends" and spouse. I appreciate hearing from my family that they believe in me and love me it is reinforced security. This blog is most likely sparked by the fact that I spent 12 years in a relationship that I am not sure even why. This is after a lot of retrospecting. There was no support, trust, love, honesty or communication on either of our parts. We brought a child into this world , Patrick,which I believe is the only thing we have in common. Two days ago was our 4th year anniversary with my husband TJ. We also have a son together, KC. Now I am not going to say that every day there is perfection. Without mistakes we do not learn. The difference is there is support, trust, love, honesty and the most important communication. TJ is my best friend, lover, partner and spouse (if that is labeling so be it). He sees things in me that I just am not able to see and vice-a-versa. His belief in me is undescribably erotic. It is this trust and devotion to the relationship that makes it stand above all others.