Communication

I have found that the root of most relationship problems both professional and personal is communication or the lack of communication. I too have failed to make my needs known and have suffered greatly from this. There is two fundamental parts of communicating talking and listening. You would think talking is pretty straight forward but it is not that simple. There is those who think they talked but there lips nevered moved then there is those who don't stop talking. There are those that barely talk with a whisper then there is those that talk at a decibil that is not audible by human ears. There are those who talk in a language not understood by common man then there are those that speak with insanity. OHH to listen. Just because you are hearing noise coming from someone does not constitute as listening. There is such a thing as passive listening and active listening. Passive listening is what most of us do on a daily basis. We hear noise directed towards us, we may be able to repeat and we are not always interested. There is a lot of nodding going on. Active listening is absolute, devoted attention to the speaker, we are able to reflect what is being said and there is somewhat of an intrest in the persons words. Less nodding lot more responding.


We all at one point or another incorporate each of these traits in our daily relationships. Some people use some traits more then others. Each trait is an extreme and we must find balance to make our needs known and to hear the needs of others. We learn a lot of our communication skills from our parents. Those first words we push from our mouths mimicking that which we have heard. The joyful response that new skill illicts encourages us to continue evidence by our vocabulary double and tripiling at remarkable speed. How our parents talked to us and listened to us also influences how we talk and listen to others. We do hone these skills as we get older and we can be taught new skills along the way. I find though by adulthood most of us have settled with the traits that have given us our best returns. This is not always the best thing. I know that I have to continue to evaluate my communication skills when things breakdown and I know that when pushed to the wall I fall back to what I feel comfortable with and it is not always the right thing. No one way is right but I have found the key that transends all traits. Have RESPECT.